Thims’ mate selection book collection

In libraries, Thims' mate selection book collection is a growing collection of 140+ books the topic of mate selection, such as desire, love, sex, relationships, marriage, divorce, beauty, facial attractiveness, human bonding, body signals, animal mating behaviors, among others.

Thims began collecting these types of books, as a sort of curiosity-hobby, beginning in about 1994 upon reading the newly published The Evolution of Desire: Strategies of Human Mating by American evolutionary psychologist David Buss. Over the years, stimulated in a sense by Buss’ excellent book, Thims has read over one-hundred books in this area, surpassing the Buffett number in knowledge. The list is shown below (a work in progress).

Newly added
The following have been recently added (04/12/10):

  1. Evans, Dylan and Zarate, Oscar. (2010). Introducing Evolutionary Psychology: A Graphic Guide. Totem books.

  1. Clarke, Peter. (1927). The Power and Science of Love. Hollywood, Ca: Desert Publishing Co.
  2. Ford, Clellan S. and Beach, Frank A. (1951). Patterns of Sexual Behavior. New York: Harper & Brothers, Publishers.
  3. Fromm, Erich. (1956). The Art of Loving. New York: Harper Perennial.
  4. Berscheid, Ellen and Walster, Elaine H. (1969). Interpersonal Attraction. London: Addison-Wesley Publishing Co.
  5. Rubin, Zick. (1973). Liking and Loving: an Invitation to Social Psychology. New York: Holt, Rinehart and Winston, Inc.
  6. Lee, John A. (1976). The Colors of Love: What Kind of Lover Are You? (Erotic, Playful or Constant? Find your own lovestyle with this provocative guide). New York: Bantam Books.
  7. Klimek, David. (1979). Beneath Mate Selection and Marriage: the Unconscious Motive in Human Pairing. New York: Van Nostrand Reinhold and Company.
  8. Tennov, Dorothy. (1979). Love and Limerence: the Experience of Being in Love. New York: Scarborough House.
  9. Fisher, Helen E. (1983). The Sex Contract: the Evolution of Human Behavior. New York: Quill.
  10. Pease, Allan. (1984). Signals: How to use Body Language for Power, Success and Love. New York: Bantam Books.
  11. Perper, Timothy. (1985). Sex Signals: the Biology of Love. Philadelphia, PA: iSi Press.
  12. Money, John. (1986). Lovemaps: Clinical Concepts of Sexual/Erotic Health and Pathology, Paraphilia, and Gender Transposition in Childhood, Adolescence, and Maturity. New York: Irvington Publishers, Inc.
  13. Baines, John. (1988). The Science of Love. New York: John Baines Institute, Inc.
  14. Gould, James L. and Gould, Carol G. (1989). Sexual Selection: Mate Choice and Courtship in Nature. New York: Scientific American Library.
  15. Benyus, Janine M. (1998). The Secret Language and Remarkable Behaviors of Animals. New York: Black Dog & Leventhal Publishers, Inc.
  16. Walsh, Anthony. (1991). The Science of Love: Understanding Love and its Effects on Mind and Body. New York: Prometheus Books.
  17. Fisher, Helen. (1992). Anatomy of Love: a Natural History of Mating, Marriage, and Why We Stray. New York: Fawcett Columbine.
  18. Batten, Mary. (1992). Sexual Strategies: How Female Choose Their Mates. New York: G.P. Putnam’s Sons.
  19. Gray, John. (1992). Men are From Mars, Women are From Venus: the Classic Guide to Understanding the Opposite Sex. New York: Quill.
  20. Gilbert, Roberta M. (1992). Extraordinary Relationships: a New Way of Thinking About Human Interactions. New York: John Wiley & Sons.
  21. Goldberg, Jane G. (1993). The Dark Side of Love: the Positive Role of Negative Feelings. New Brunswick: Transactions Publishers.
  22. Small, Meredith F. (1993). Female Choices: Sexual Behavior of Female Primates. Ithaca, NY: Cornell University Press.
  23. Vedral, Joyce. (1993). Get Rid of Him: Break Free from Dead-End Relationships. London: Fourth Estate.
  24. Ackerman, Diane. (1994). A Natural History of Love. New York: Vintage Books.
  25. Gottman, John. (1994). Why Marriages Succeed or Fail: and How You Can Make Yours Last. New York: A Fireside Book.
  26. Josselson, Ruthellen. (1996). The Space Between Us: Exploring the Dimensions of Human Relationships. London: Sage Publications.
  27. Baker, Robin. (1996). Sperm Wars: the Science of Sex. New York: Harper Collins Publishers Ltd.
  28. Auhagen, Ann E. and Salisch, Maria v. (1996). The Diversity of Human Relationships. Cambridge: Cambridge University Press.
  29. Diamond, Jared. (1997). Why is Sex Fun? The Evolution of Human Sexuality. New York: Basic Books.
  30. Morris, Desmond. (1997). The Human Sexes: A Natural History of Man and Women. New York: St. Martin’s Press.
  31. Pert, Candace P. (1997). Molecules of Emotion: Why You Feel the Way You Feel. New York: Touchstone.
  32. Margulis, Lynn and Sagan, Dorion. (1997). What is Sex? New York: Simon & Schuster.
  33. Blum, Deborah. (1997). Sex on the Brain: the Biological Differences Between Men + Women. New York: Penguin.
  34. Sternberg, Robert J. (1998). Cupid’s Arrow: the Course of Love through Time. New York: Cambridge University Press.
  35. Sternberg, Robert J. (1998). Love is a Story: a New Theory of Relationships. New York: Oxford University Press.
  36. Andreae, Simon. (1998). Anatomy of Desire: the Science and Psychology of Sex, Love and Marriage. London: Little, Brown, and Co.
  37. Gottman, John M. (1999). The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work. New York: Three Rivers Press.
  38. Odent, Michel. (1999). The Scientification of Love. New York: Free Association Books.
  39. Janov, Arthur. (2000). The Biology of Love. New York: Prometheus Books.
  40. Hooks, Bell. (2000). All About Love: New Visions. New York: Perennial.
  41. Taylor, Maurice and McGee, Seana. (2000). The New Couple: Why the Old Rules don’t Work and What Does (introducing the ten new laws of love). New York: HarperCollins books.
  42. Low, Bobbi S. (2000). Why Sex Matters: a Darwinian Look at Human Behavior. Princeton: Princeton University Press.
  43. Cohen, Robert S. (2002). Reconcilable Differences: 7 Essential Tips to Remaining Together from a Top Matrimonial Lawyer. New York: Pocket Books.
  44. Pollan, Michael. (2001). The Botany of Desire: a Plant’s-Eye View of the World. New York: Random House.
  45. Wilson, Glenn D. and McLaughlin, Chris. (2001). The Science of Love. London: Fusion Press.
  46. Gribbin, John and Cherfas, Jeremy. (2001). The Mating Game: In Search of the Meaning of Sex. New York: Barnes & Noble.
  47. Neumann, Earl. (2001). Love at First Sight: the Stories and Science Behind Instant Attraction. Naperville, Il: Casablanca Press.
  48. Barash, David P. and Lipton, Dudith E. (2001). The Myth of Monogamy: Fidelity and Infidelity in Animals and People. New York: Henry Holt and Co.
  49. Rodgers, Joann E. (2001). Sex: a Natural History. New York: Times Books.
  50. Warren, Neil C. (2002). Date or Soul Mate? How to Know if Someone is Worth Pursuing in Two Dates or Less. Nashville: Thomson Nelson Publishers.
  51. Judson, Olivia. (2002). Dr. Tatiana’s Sex Advice to All Creation: the Definitive Guide to the Evolutionary Biology of Sex. New York: Henry Holt and Co.
  52. Mitchell, Stephen. (2002). Can Love Last? The Fate of Romance Over Time. New York: W.W. Norton & Co.
  53. Niven, David. (2003). The 100 Simple Secrets of Great Relationships: What the Scientists Have Learned and How You Can Use it. New York: Harper Collins.
  54. Broussard, Meredith. (2003). The Dictionary of Failed Relationships: 26 Tales of Love Gone Wrong. New York: Three Rivers Press.
  55. Blum, Virginia L. (2003). Flesh Wounds: the Culture of Cosmetic Surgery. Berkeley: University of California Press.
  56. Hoffman, Edward and Weiner, Marcella B. (2003). The Love Compatibility Book: the 12 Personality Traits that Can Lead You to Your Soulmate. Novato, Ca: New World Library.
  57. Starsky, Stella and Cox, Quinn. (2004). Sextrology: the Astrology of Sex and the Sexes. New York: HarperResource.
  58. Eldredge, Niles. (2004). Why We Do It? Rethinking Sex and the Selfish Gene. New York: W.W. Norton & Co.
  59. Cullen, Ruth. (2004). The Little Black Book of Sex: a Lover’s Guide to Doing it Right. White Plains, NY: Peter Pauper Press, Inc.
  60. Givens, David. (2005). Love Signals: a Practice Guide to the Body Language of Courtship. New York: St. Martin’s Press.
  61. Roach, Marion. (2005). The Roots of Desire: the Myth, Meaning, and Sexual Power of Red Hair. New York: Bloomsbury Publishing.
  62. Schwartz, Pepper. (2006). Finding Your Perfect Match: 8 Keys to Finding Lasting Love Through True Compatibility. New York: The Berkeley Publishing Group.
  63. Sprogis, Uldis. (2006). The Science of Love: Rational Answers to the Irrational Emotions of Adoring, Caring, Longing, and Heartbreak. New York: Arbor Books.
  64. Sternberg, Robert J. and Weis, Karin. (2006). The New Psychology of Love. New Haven, Ct: Yale University Press.
  65. Dobransky, Paul. (2007). The Secret Psychology of How We Fall in Love: Dr. Paul’s 9 Proven Steps to Lasting Love. New York: A Plume Book.

Evolutionary psychology
See main: Evolutionary psychology
  1. Symons, Donald. (1979). The Evolution of Human Sexuality. New York: Oxford University Press.
  2. Barkow, Jerome H., Cosmides, Leda and Tooby, John. (1992). The Adapted Mind: Evolutionary Psychology and the Generation of Culture. New York: Oxford University Press.
  3. Ridley, Matt. (1993). The Red Queen: Sex and the Evolution of Human Nature. New York: Penguin.
  4. Buss, David M. (1994). The Evolution of Desire: Strategies of Human Mating. New York: Basic Books.
  5. Wright, Robert. (1994). The Moral Animal: Evolutionary Psychology and Everyday Life. New York: Vintage Books.
  6. Small, Meredith F. (1995). What’s Love Got to Do with It? The Evolution of Human Mating. New York: Anchor Books.
  7. Ridley, Matt. (1996). The Origins of Virtue: Human Instincts and the Evolution of Cooperation. New York: Penguin.
  8. Buss, David M. (1999). Evolutionary Psychology: the New Science of the Mind. Needham Heights, MA: A Viacom Co.
  9. Ridley, Matt. (1999). Genome: the Autobiography of a Species in 23 Chapters. New York: Perennial.
  10. Miller, Geoffrey. (2000). The Mating Mind: How Sexual Choice Shaped the Evolution of Human Nature. New York: Anchor books.
  11. Ridley, Matt. (2003). The Agile Gene: How Nature Turns on Nurture. New York: Perennial.
  12. Vail, Jeff. (2004). A Theory of Power. New York: iUniverse.
  13. Miller, Alan S. and Kanazawa, Satoshi. (2007). Why Beautiful People Have More Daughters: From Dating, Shopping, and Praying to Going to War and Becoming a Billionaire: Two Evolutionary Psychologists Explain Why We Do What We Do. New York: A Perigee Book.

Relationship chemistry
  1. Fairburn, William A. (1914). Human Chemistry. New York: The Nation Press.
  2. Liebowitz, Michael R. (1983). The Chemistry of Love. Boston: Little, Brown and Co.
  3. Cunningham, Andrew and Jardine, Nicholas. (1990). Romanticism and the Sciences, (ch. 18: "Goethe's Use of Chemical Theory in his Elective Affinities", pgs. 263-79). New York: Cambridge University Press.
  4. Fishman, Barbara M. and Ashner, Laurie. (1994). Resonance: the New Chemistry of Love. San Francisco: HarperSanFrancisco.
  5. Crenshaw, Theresa L. (1996). The Alchemy of Love and Lust: Discovering Our Sex Hormones and How they Determine who we Love, when we Love, and how often we Love. New York: Putnam’s and Sons.
  6. Nochimson, Martha P. (2002). Screen Couple Chemistry: the Power of 2. Austin, Tx: University of Texas Press.
  7. Fisher, Helen. (2004). Why We Love: the Nature and Chemistry of Romantic Love. New York: Henry Holt and Co.
  8. Hargreaves, Tony. (2006). Chemistry of Sex. Morrisville, NC: LuLu Enterprises.
  9. Froböse, Gabriele and Froböse, Rolf. (2006). Lust and Love: Is it More Than Chemistry? Cambridge: RSC Publishing.
  10. Thims, Libb. (2007). Human Chemistry (Volume One), (preview), (Google books). Morrisville, NC: LuLu.
  11. Thims, Libb. (2007). Human Chemistry (Volume Two), (preview), (Google books). Morrisville, NC: LuLu.


  1. Etcoff, Nancy. (1999). Survival of the Prettiest: the Science of Beauty. New York: Anchor Books.
  2. Bates, Brian and Cleese John. (2001). The Human Face. New York: DK Publising.
  3. Rhodes, Gillian and Zebrowitz, Leslie A. (2002). Facial Attractiveness: Evolutionary, Cognitive, and Social Perspectives. London: Ablex.

Human Bonding

  1. Bowlby, John. (1969). Attachment and Loss (Vol. I: Attachment). New York: Basic Books.
  2. Bowlby, John. (1973). Attachment and Loss (Vol. II: Separation, Anxiety, and Anger). New York: Basic Books.
  3. Klaus, Marshall H. and Kennell, John H. (1976). Maternal-Infant Bonding: the Impact of Separation or Loss on Family Development. St. Louis: The C.V. Mosby Co.
  4. Bowlby, John. (1979). The Making and Breaking of Affectional Bonds. New York: Routledge.
  5. Money, John. (1980). Love and Love Sickness: the Science of Sex, Gender Differences, and Pair-Bonding. Baltimore, Ml: The Johns Hopkins University Press.
  6. Bank, Stephen P. and Kahn, Michael D. (1982). The Sibling Bond: the First Major Account of the Powerful Emotional Connections among Brothers and Sisters Through Life. New York: Basic Books.
  7. Klaus, Marshall H. and Kennell John. H. (1982). Parent-Infant Bonding. London: The C.V. Mosby Co.
  8. Fedigan, Linda M. (1982). Primate Paradigms: Sex Roles and Social Bonds. Chicago: The University of Chicago Press.
  9. Bolton, Frank G. (1983). When Bonding Fails: Clinical Assessment of High-Risk Families. London: Sage Publications.
  10. Vaughan, Diane. (1986). Uncoupling: Turning Points in Intimate Relationships. New York: Oxford University Press.
  11. Benjamin, Jessica. (1988). The Bonds of Love: Psychoanalysis, Feminism, and the Problem of Domination. New York: Pantheon Books.
  12. Robertson, James and Robertson Joyce. (1989). Separation and Very Young. London: Free Association Books.
  13. Rossi, Alice S., and Rossi, Peter H. (1990). Of Human Bonding: Parent-Child Relations Across the Life Course. New York: Aldine de Gruyter.
  14. Greiner, Donald J. (1993). Women Without Men: Female Bonding and the American Novel of the 1980s. Columbia, SC: University of South Carolina.
  15. Klaus, Marshall, H., Kennell, John H., and Klaus, Phyllis H. (1995). Bonding: Building the Foundations of Secure Attachment and Independence.
  16. Merrell, Susan S. (1995). The Accidental Bond: the Power of Sibling Relationships. New York: Times Books.
  17. Herbert, Martin. (1996). Bonding: Infantile and Parental Attachments. Oxford: The British Psychological Society.
  18. Carnes, Patrick J. (1997). The Betrayal Bond: Breaking Free of Exploitive Relationships. Deerfield Beach, Fl: Health Communications Inc.
  19. Miller, Warren B. and Rodgers, Joseph L. (2001). The Ontogeny of Human Bonding Systems: Evolutionary Origins, Neural Bases, and Psychological Manifestations. Boston: Kluwer Academic Publishers.
  20. Bush, Yvonne R. (2001). Bonding and Attachment. Prescott, Az: Bush Publishing.
  21. Ziegahan, Suzen J. (2001). 7 Steps to Bonding with Your Stepchild. New York: St. Martin’s Griffin.
  22. Roberts, Dorothy. (2002). Shattered Bonds: the Color of Child Welfare. New York: Basic Civitas Books.
  23. Chayko, Mary. (2002). Connecting: How we Form Social Bonds and Communities in the Internet Age. Albany, NY: State University of New York Press.
  24. Bauman, Zygmunt. (2003). Liquid Love: on the Frailty of Human Bonds. Malden, MA: Polity Press.
  25. Glausiusz, Josie and Steger, Volker. (2004). Buzz: the Intimate Bond Between Humans and Insects. San Francisco, Ca: Chronicle Books LLC.
  26. Anderson, David C. (2007). Assessing the Human-Animal Bond: a Compendium of Actual Measures. West Lafayette, In: Purdue University Press.

  1. Wilson, Edward O. (1980). Sociobiology (the Abridged Edition). Cambridge, Mass.: The Belknap Press.
  2. Nyborg, Helmuth. (1994). Hormones, Sex, and Society: the Science of Physicology. London: Praeger.
  3. Johnston, Victor S. (1999). Why We Feel: the Science of Human Emotions. Cambridge, Mass: Perseus Books.
  4. Siegel, Daniel J. (1999). The Developing Mind: How Relationships and the Brain Interact to Shape Who We Are. New York: The Guilford Press.
  5. Pfaff, Donald W. (1999). Drive: Neurobiological and Molecular Mechanisms of Sexual Motivation. Cambridge, Mass: MIT Press.
  6. Lewis, Thomas, Amini, Fari, and Lannon, Richard. (2000). A General Theory of Love. New York: Vintage Books.

Birth Order

  1. Leman, Kevin. (1998). The New Birth Order Book: Why You Are the Way You Are. Grand Rapids, Mi: Fleming H. Revell.
  2. Leman, Kevin. (2001). The Birth Order Connection: Finding and Keeping the Love of Your Life. Grand Rapid, Mi: Fleming H. Revell.


  1. Lowndes, Leil. (1996). How to Make Anyone Fall in Love with You (85 Techniques Based on Scientific Studies into the Nature of Romantic Love). Lincolnwood, Il: Contemporary Books.
  2. Hogan, Kevin and Labay, Mary L. (2000). Irresistible Attraction: Secrets of Personal Magnetism. Kearney, Ne: Morris Publishing.
  3. Lieberman, David J. (2000). Get Anyone To do Anything: Never Feel Powerless Again – With Psychological Secrets to Control and Influence Every Situation. New York: St. Martin’s Griffin.
  4. Green, Robert. (2001). The Art of Seduction. New York: Penguin Books.
  5. Lowndes, Leil. (2001). How to Be a People Magnet: Finding Friends, and Lovers, and Keeping Them for Life. New York: Contemporary Books.
  6. Strauss, Neil. (2005). The Game: Penetrating the Secret Society of Pickup Artists. New York: ReganBooks.
  7. Mystery. (2007). The Mystery Method: How to Get Beautiful Women into Bed. New York: St. Martin’s Press.

GLBT-Queer studies

  1. LeVay, Simon. (1993). The Sexual Brain. Cambridge, Mass.: The MIT Press.
  2. Hamer, Dean and Copeland, Peter. (1994). The Science of Desire: the Search for the Gay Gene and the Biology of Behavior. New York: Simon & Schuster.
  3. Fausto-Sterling, Anne. (2000). Sexing the Body: Gender Politics and the Construction of Sexuality. New York: Basic Books.
  4. Roughgarden, Joan. (2004). Evolution’s Rainbow: Diversity, Gender, and Sexuality in Nature and People.

  1. Hall, Edward T. (1996). The Hidden Dimension: an Anthropologist Examines Man’s Use of Space in Public and Private. New York: Anchor Books.
  2. Bainbridge, David. (2001). Making Babies: the Science of Pregnancy. Cambridge, Mass.: Harvard University Press.
  3. Rubin, Scott, Crespo, Sean and Brown, Mason. (2004). National Lampoon’s Big Book of Love. New York: Rugged Land, LLC.

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